Communicate OR Die!

Suzanne Goodchild

Communication or the lack of it is probably the largest issue in all aspects of our life.  As babies and toddlers when we were learning to communicate we began to imitate the way we saw adults interact and communicate with others.

Adults do this with varying degrees of success.

As human beings we have been part of the evolutionary process that happens through generations.

This is the process of observations being passed on with all the old habits and conditioned patterns.

Hopefully each generation is evolving to bring positive change to their children.

In this generation we are learning to be open to communication, opening our hearts and sharing our feelings.

Communication, sharing and talking are important in the family unit, and equally important in the social and career arenas.

We need to change spiritually and physically, and if we can name our emotional state of being we can begin the process of becoming the best role models we can possibly be.

Our journey is to open communication with our children in a way that is positive, open and clear. 

This gives them the opportunity to imitate and become the communicators of the future.

It is an old cliché but so true, our children are our future.

• Non-judgmental listening
• Empathic listening
• Objective listening

Listening is a large part of communicating.

Most people do not listen.  What they are doing, is thinking about the response they are going to give.

You need to listen then respond in order to be an effective communicator.

Tips for Effective Listening

Receive the information; Understand the information you have heard;


If you do not understand say "Am I hearing you say....” or, “Did I hear you say.....” and feedback what you think you have heard;

Remember all you have heard;

Evaluate the information and your response, and try to put yourself in the other person's shoes;


Respond with respect, honesty and tact.

Remember if you honour yourself, you will honour the other person.

People are trying to process their feelings with you so they feel vulnerable and defensive.

If you show them you are non-judgmental of their position, you assist them and yourself.

Most people respond from fear.

Fear is always a difficult emotion to control. We usually respond to fear without thought.

Always try to respond from love.

Love is a positive and effective response.

Communication is fun. You can play with words and learn about others and yourself.

Open yourself to learning.

Without communication we would not have relationships with family, friends, partners, lovers, husbands, wives, our children or our colleagues.

Without sharing our feelings, our connections close down.

Make a conscious decision to share, name, talk about, and become vulnerable to others around you.

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